Showing posts with label old-fashioned fun. Show all posts
Showing posts with label old-fashioned fun. Show all posts

Friday, August 31, 2012

The simplest summer fun


The timeless truth of summer vacation is that sometimes the simplest parts are the best.
Yesterday, the kids and I spent the afternoon playing games in our driveway. First we played Frisbee; then badminton; then ladder ball; and we put all the games away only because it got to be 4:30 and I still needed to go grocery shopping.

It was a fairly notable contrast to other events this summer, days we’ve traveled farther, taken part in somewhat more exotic endeavors, and certainly spent a lot more money. And yet it was just as much fun.
For the most part, this summer has kept us relatively close to home, but we’ve still fit in a decent amount of variety in our activities. We’ve gone miniature golfing. We’ve taken several beach trips. We’ve put in lots of boating hours. We’ve swum in a local pond and in the backyard pools of various friends and relatives. There were birthday parties and graduation parties. We took a canal tour in Lowell. We took part in an all-you-can-eat ice cream tasting in Maine, and watched fireworks over the harbor on the Fourth of July. We attended a few minor league baseball games. We spent a day at the Museum of Science in Boston. We visited art exhibits in Lincoln, Concord and Lexington. And we spent a week exploring Disney World, with its myriad wonders and peculiarities, from Cinderella impersonators to roller coaster rides.
And all of it was a lot of fun. But so was yesterday. We were busy with various things indoors all morning; after lunch I told the kids it was imperative that we find some kind of outdoor activity that we all wanted to do. I suggested swimming at the nearby pond where we have a summer membership, or walking through the woods to the ice cream stand.
They preferred Frisbee. And badminton. And ladder ball. In the driveway.
So that was how we spent the afternoon. Not exotic fun, and not a lot of cultural immersion or exploration of nature involved. Just traditional backyard games, on one of the last days before summer vacation ends and school begins.
Yesterday afternoon probably won’t make it into any “What I did over my summer vacation” essays, other than this one. It was trivial. It was mundane.
But sometimes those are exactly the characteristics of summer fun. Yesterday, anyway. I’ll remember the afternoon of games in the yard, even if the kids might not. But my guess is that they’ll remember it too. Maybe not to brag to their friends about. But maybe when they’re my age and looking for something fun to do with their own children, they’ll remember Frisbee. And badminton. And ladder ball. And simple ways to have fun on an August afternoon.

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Last day of summer vacation

What a sense of relief rushes in on the last day of summer vacation. We made it. We stayed healthy and uninjured; we kept ourselves busy and had fun. The kids bickered, but not unbearably -- though honestly, to me almost any amount is hard to bear. I remember when I was their age my mother using that same word, "bicker," to describe what my sisters and I did, and what's funny is I never really understood back then why it bothered her. "We're not bickering with you," I wanted to say, "so why does it bother you?" My perspective back then was that if you're not the one being argued with -- or criticized, or spoken to rudely -- why do you care that someone else is?

But it's different when you're the mom...although I still can't explain why. Hearing my children bicker with each other grates on my nerves in a primal way that is impossible for me to explain, even as I tell myself that there's nothing so terribly wrong or harmful, and in fact there's probably something quite developmentally appropriate, about their needing to express their differences and assert their emotional territory.

So there was a certain amount of bickering this summer, more than usual for them, but we also had a lot of fun. We took a few daytrips to the beach, went into Boston once for a ferry trip to the harbor islands, spent the July 4th weekend in Maine, ran a 5-mile road race, attended several pool parties, and went out of town for a week -- the kids and Rick to Cooperstown, New York, for a baseball tournament; me to a writers' conference in Colorado -- but mostly we just found ways to have fun around home. We picked blackberries on the driveway and blueberries around the pond; we swam at NARA Beach; we biked to the library; we walked to Ferns for snacks. We consumed our weight (at least Holly's weight) in Kimballs ice cream, but on the plus side, we almost always walked or biked there. Tim played a lot of baseball games; sometimes Holly and I watched. We went to the playground a couple of times and set up the sprinkler in the backyard. Cousins visited. We attended a professional baseball game. Tim had a couple of sleepovers; Holly hosted a birthday party and attended Girl Scout camp.

We had a good old-fashioned summer full of good old-fashioned fun. And bickering. But that's normal. And in 14 hours a new school year begins.